Is there a good/bad time to try to talk to my kids?
Rachel Concannon, adolescent therapist: “The time that is most convenient to you to talk about something big WILL NOT BE the time your kid wants to talk. Instead, it will happen at the most inopportune time, I promise you. When your kid opens the door a crack and is ready to talk, that’s when you should put everything aside and listen. These deeper conversations are ones you need to make sure your kid knows they have your full attention. The worst time to try to talk to your kid is probably right after school. So much happens at school that they need time to process what’s gone on during the day. They should eat something (they don’t eat enough nutrient rich foods at school), and just chill. Right before bed is when they are most vulnerable—they have taken off the mask they wear at school, the armor, and they’re more willing to be open with you. Don’t give up if you don’t succeed at first. Keep offering that time and space for them to open up to you. Remind them that they can tell you ANYTHING and you will not judge—that you are there for them no matter what. They need to see you as their biggest advocate, cheerleader and support. That’s how you’ll get them to talk!”